Speaking

Some people think words do not cause harm. Scripture offers a different perspective. Words hold the power of "life and death" (Proverbs 18:21).

Proverbs lists many things we say that cause harm:

• lies (Proverbs 14:5, 25)

• arguments (Proverbs 26:17)

• insults or curses (Proverbs 20:20)

• speaking falsely about someone to damage their reputation (Proverbs 10:18)

• spreading private information about others or unverified stories passed from person to person (Proverbs 11:13; 18:8)

• excessive or insincere praise given to manipulate someone (Proverbs 7:21–22)

• speaking too proudly about oneself (Proverbs 26:23; 27:2)

The book of Proverbs often emphasizes that foolish people say foolish things. “The woman named Folly” symbolizes these people (9:13–18). She lies and deceives to harm her listeners. Words show the heart's condition (16:23; 18:4).

Someone might hide an evil heart with pleasant words (26:23). But true character will eventually appear (26:24–26). Foolish words harm others and eventually hurt the speaker. The tongue is full of wickedness that can ruin your life (James 3:6).

In contrast, wise people speak words that give life, as shown by wisdom (Proverbs 8:7–9; 10:11). Wise people use their words carefully and are usually gentle (17:27–28; 15:4; 16:24). Yet, a wise person also knows the right time to speak (15:23; 25:11). This person understands that sometimes even harsh criticism is necessary (see 27:5). The book of Proverbs wisely reminds readers to pay attention not only to what they say but also to how and when they say it.

Passages for Further Study

Proverbs 7:21–22; 8:7–9; 9:13–18; 10:11, 18; 11:13; 14:5, 25; 15:4, 23; 16:23–24; 17:28; 18:4, 21; 20:20; 25:11; 26:17, 23–26; 27:2, 5; Matthew 12:33–37; James 3:1–12